Managing Flight Anxiety with CBT: Identifying Worst-Case, Best-Case, and Most Likely Scenarios
Flight anxiety can be overwhelming, often leading to a cascade of "what if" thoughts that can make the experience of flying feel insurmountable. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) offers practical strategies to help manage these anxious thoughts. One effective technique is identifying the worst-case, best-case, and most likely scenarios. This approach can help you gain perspective and reduce anxiety by challenging irrational fears.
Understanding the Technique
CBT is a therapeutic approach that focuses on changing unhelpful thinking patterns and behaviors. By identifying and challenging negative thoughts, you can develop healthier, more realistic ways of thinking. The worst-case, best-case, and most likely scenario technique is a straightforward but powerful tool within CBT that helps you balance your thinking and manage anxiety.
Step-by-Step Guide to Using This CBT Technique
1. Identify the Worst-Case Scenario
When you're feeling anxious about flying, your mind might automatically jump to the worst possible outcome. This is a natural response, but it's often exaggerated and not based on reality.
Example: "What if the plane crashes and I die?"
While this thought is terrifying, it's essential to acknowledge it and then move on to the next step.
2. Identify the Best-Case Scenario
Next, consider the best possible outcome. This helps balance out the negativity by acknowledging that positive outcomes are also possible.
Example: "What if the flight is smooth, and I arrive safely at my destination feeling calm and happy?"
This positive scenario is just as likely as the worst-case scenario and helps create a balanced view.
3. Identify the Most Likely Scenario
Finally, identify the most realistic and likely outcome. This step grounds you in reality and helps you see the situation more clearly.
Example: "The flight will probably be uneventful. There might be some turbulence, but the plane is designed to handle it, and I will arrive safely."
By focusing on the most likely scenario, you can reduce your anxiety by reminding yourself of the realistic outcome.
Applying the Technique in Real Life
Step 1: Write It Down
Start by writing down your worst-case, best-case, and most likely scenarios. Seeing your thoughts on paper can help you process them more effectively.
Step 2: Challenge Irrational Thoughts
Look at the worst-case scenario and challenge its validity. What evidence do you have that this will happen? Often, you'll find that your fears are based on irrational thoughts rather than facts.
Step 3: Reframe Your Thinking
Use the best-case and most likely scenarios to reframe your thinking. Remind yourself that while anything is possible, the most probable outcome is usually far less dramatic than your worst fears.
Step 4: Practice Regularly
Like any skill, this technique requires practice. The more you use it, the more natural it will become. Over time, you'll find that your anxiety decreases as you develop a more balanced way of thinking.
Conclusion
Managing flight anxiety is a journey, but with tools like the worst-case, best-case, and most likely scenario technique from CBT, you can take significant steps towards overcoming your fears. By challenging your irrational thoughts and grounding yourself in reality, you can transform your anxious moments into opportunities for growth and resilience.
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How Gratitude Can Help Alleviate Anxiety
When you are anxious, your mind is usually consumed with fearful thoughts, bad outcomes of future events, or thoughts that just won't stop.
This constant worry can be exhausting and debilitating.
But there’s a simple yet powerful tool you can use to interrupt this pattern: gratitude.
Why Gratitude Helps with Anxiety
It may sound too simplistic, but trust me on this. Research has shown that practicing gratitude can have profound effects on your mood, sleep, and even your longevity.
When you are anxious, try to interrupt your thought pattern with gratitude. This will move your thoughts from fearful, anxious, and negative to feelings of appreciation and love.
The Science Behind Gratitude
Studies have found that gratitude can reduce symptoms of anxiety by:
Shifting focus from negative to positive thoughts
Enhancing feelings of well-being
Improving sleep quality
Increasing resilience to stress
How to Practice Gratitude
There are many ways to practice gratitude, and there is no wrong way to do it. The most important thing is to start and do it consistently. Even if that means having to repeat it 30 times a day.
Here are some tips on how to incorporate gratitude into your daily routine:
1. Be Specific
When practicing gratitude, be specific. Don’t just say you are grateful for your family. Go into detail.
Why are you grateful for your family?
Who is one person in your family you are particularly grateful for today?
How has this person impacted your life or day?
What would you say to them if you could?
The more detailed you get, the better this exercise works.
2. Keep a Gratitude Journal
Write down three things you are grateful for each day. This can be done in the morning to start your day on a positive note, or at night to reflect on the good things that happened during the day.
3. Think About Someone You Are Grateful For
Spend a few moments thinking about someone who has made a positive impact on your life. Reflect on why you are grateful for them and how they have helped you.
4. Write and Send a Letter of Gratitude
Writing a letter to someone you are grateful for can be a powerful way to express your appreciation. If possible, send the letter to them.
This not only helps you feel good but also strengthens your relationship with that person.
5. Count Your Blessings
Sit quietly and mentally list everything you are grateful for. See how many things you can come up with. This exercise can help shift your focus from what is going wrong to what is going right.
6. Write a Thank You Note
Writing thank you notes is a simple but effective way to practice gratitude. Whether it’s for a small favor or a big gesture, expressing your thanks can boost your mood and foster positive feelings.
7. Incorporate Gratitude in Prayer
If you are religious, incorporate gratitude into your prayers. Thank your higher power for the blessings in your life.
Make Gratitude a Habit
The key to reaping the benefits of gratitude is consistency. Try to make gratitude a daily habit. Here are a few suggestions on when to practice gratitude:
Before bedtime
At meals
First thing in the morning
Gratitude is a powerful tool that can help alleviate anxiety and improve your overall well-being. By shifting your focus from negative to positive thoughts, you can break the cycle of anxiety and foster feelings of appreciation and love. Start incorporating gratitude into your daily routine and see how it transforms your life.
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Understanding Reassurance Seeking and How It Fuels Anxiety
Living with anxiety or OCD can be incredibly challenging, especially when intrusive thoughts and constant worries take over your mind.
One common coping mechanism people turn to is reassurance seeking. While it may provide temporary relief, it often fuels anxiety in the long run.
In this blog post, we’ll explore what reassurance seeking is, why it’s problematic for anxiety and OCD recovery, and the different types of reassurance seeking.
What is Reassurance Seeking?
Reassurance seeking involves looking for confirmation or validation from others to alleviate anxiety or uncertainty. This can include repeatedly asking for assurances about health, safety, relationships, or morality.
While seeking reassurance might provide a brief sense of relief, it can quickly become a compulsive behavior that perpetuates anxiety.
Why is Reassurance Seeking Problematic?
Reassurance seeking is problematic because it reinforces the idea that the intrusive thoughts or worries are legitimate threats that need to be addressed. This can prevent you from learning to tolerate uncertainty and develop healthy coping mechanisms. Over time, reassurance seeking can become a crutch, making it harder to manage anxiety or OCD independently.
Types of reassurance traps
1. Do No Harm
This type of reassurance seeking involves looking for certainty that you are not a bad person. Intrusive harming thoughts can have violent, sexual, or embarrassing content.
For instance, you might find yourself always being careful to avoid accidental harm to yourself or others. Or you may have an overwhelming fear of offending God, leading you to constantly try to prove to yourself that you are in good grace.
2. Guarantees Forever
This type of reassurance seeking is about finding certainty that everything will be okay.
This could mean constantly seeking reassurance to prove you don’t have a serious illness by checking your pulse or temperature without any medical advice.
It could also involve needing to know if you are going to get fired by studying others' reactions and excessively asking colleagues if they think you are not performing well.
Additionally, it can mean needing to confirm your partner’s faithfulness by scanning their face, checking their phone and emails, and becoming upset if a text is not answered right away.
3. Banish All Doubts
This type of reassurance seeking involves trying to find answers to questions that are unanswerable. These might include questions like, “How can I be sure I’m really here on earth?”
Reassurance seeking can involve frequently asking friends or family to confirm your identity or reality, or seeking validation from online forums about your sexual orientation or mental health.
4. Don’t Mess Up
This type of reassurance seeking is driven by the fear of messing up, especially at work.
This can lead to endless checking of emails or working excessively to avoid imperfections. It can also involve doing extensive research and planning for a simple purchase to ensure you make the perfect decision.
Reassurance seeking can look like spending hours drafting and redrafting a simple email to avoid any potential errors or researching for days before making a minor purchase decision.
How State of Mind Therapy Can Help with Reassurance Seeking
If you struggle with anxiety and reassurance seeking, know that you are not alone. At State of Mind Therapy, we specialize in helping individuals break free from the cycle of anxiety and find peace.
Our experienced therapists use evidence-based strategies to address the root causes of your anxiety and develop healthier coping mechanisms.
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5 Essential Tips to Effectively Sit with Anxiety and Find Relief
It sounds so simple, right? As you start to learn about the strategies that help and don’t help with anxiety, you’ve likely come to realize that running from discomfort only makes matters worse.
So, everything you have been learning tells you not to avoid, distract, or engage in compulsions but to “sit with anxiety” instead.
I understand this isn’t easy. If it was, you wouldn’t be avoiding in the first place.
Why Sitting with Anxiety is Important
Avoidance might seem like a quick fix, but it reinforces the idea that anxiety is something to fear. By learning to sit with anxiety, you can change your relationship with it and reduce its power over you.
I find that there are essential skills I need to help my clients learn in order to effectively “sit with” anxiety. Here are my tips on how to do just that.
5 Tips on How to Sit with Anxiety
1. Be Curious About What Your Body is Doing
Close your eyes to really allow yourself to be present with your mind and body. Do a scan of your body and notice where you are experiencing sensations.
Just name the sensation you notice in a matter-of-fact way. For example: “I notice chest tightness” or “here’s nausea.” Draw an imaginary circle around that area.
2. Acknowledge the Sensation for What It Is
When we feel anxiety in our bodies, we can begin to interpret these sensations as real danger.
If you find your mind doing this, remind yourself, “this is just a sensation” or “here is discomfort.”
3. Be Curious About What Your Mind is Doing
Close your eyes once again and notice what your mind does. Is it giving demanding threats?
Is it spinning with a bunch of random thoughts? Is it desperately trying to focus on something else?
You don’t have to do anything here, just sit back as if you were sitting in the chair of a theater and watching a show.
4. Be Gentle
Sitting with anxiety isn’t easy. You need to give yourself relentless grace and encouragement for doing something difficult. No judgment allowed here.
Tell yourself, “this isn’t easy” or “I can do hard things.”
Beating yourself up for having anxiety is not helpful in moving you forward, so commit to being kinder to yourself.
If a close friend began to panic, would you say, “what’s wrong with you?” Probably not. So don’t tell yourself that either. Treat yourself like you would treat a friend.
5. Remove Temptation
If you are working on sitting with anxiety without avoidance or compulsions, you may want to modify your environment to make it more challenging to access those.
For instance, if you are working on reducing handwashing, remove extra soap or hand wipes. If you are working on not checking the rearview mirror, flip it up or cover it. If you seek excessive reassurance (online or with loved ones), leave your phone/computer and go for a walk so you can’t research the internet.
Practice, Practice, Practice
If you are working on relating to anxiety differently, then these skills are crucial to your success. If you are doing exposure therapy, you are moving towards situations that make you uncomfortable all the time.
If you are struggling to sit with anxiety, you will likely abandon the exposure exercise quickly and end up avoiding the situation (or doing a compulsion).
I recommend practicing these skills regularly before doing exposures. If you only practice these skills during times of high anxiety, it may be more challenging to sit with the uncomfortable feelings.
Taking the Next Step
Sitting with anxiety is a vital skill in managing and overcoming it. By being curious, gentle, and persistent, you can change your relationship with anxiety and lead a more fulfilling life.
If you need help applying these skills, consider starting therapy for anxiety or OCD. Our therapists are trained in using the most effective strategies for treating anxiety disorders and OCD.
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Should You Use Anti-Anxiety Medication for Flying? Here's My Take
Many people seek out a prescription for anti-anxiety medication to use while traveling or during other high-anxiety times. If you’re considering this option, I want to share my personal (and professional) take on it and give you a few things to consider.
IMPORTANT: Deciding to take medication is a personal decision, and this is by no means professional advice. Always consult your doctor or therapist to determine whether medication is right for you.
Understanding Anti-Anxiety Medication
When I talk about anti-anxiety medication, I’m referring to quick-acting medications like Valium, Xanax, or Klonopin. These are different from other anxiety medications such as Zoloft or Prozac, which are SSRIs and not quick-acting. SSRI’s are a great option for daily anxiety or depression management.
Reasons to Consider NOT Using Quick-Acting Medication
While quick-acting anti-anxiety medication can be helpful, there are important reasons to think twice about relying on them for flying:
1. It Won't Resolve Your Fear
Even if the medication helps you to fly, it’s just a band-aid. It doesn’t address the root of the problem or help you learn that flying is safe and that you can handle discomfort. You may end up relying on the medication every time you fly.
2. You May Find You Need It More and More
Because anti-anxiety medication is effective, you might start turning to it during other anxious times instead of learning other coping skills. For many people, anxiety about flying doesn’t just occur on the day of the flight but also in the days and weeks leading up to it, increasing the likelihood of turning to medication.
3. It May Not Be Helpful in an Actual Emergency
These medications can make you drowsy and sleepy. In the event of an actual emergency, your ability to react quickly could be impaired, or it might be difficult for others to wake you.
4. It May Not Be Safe with Other Medications
If you’re taking other medications, you need to ensure that it’s safe to use anti-anxiety medications concurrently. You don’t want to experience a medical emergency while 30,000 feet in the air.
When Medication Might Make Sense
There are situations where taking anti-anxiety medication for flying might make sense. For example, if you have to fly somewhere and have not yet developed the skills or supports to manage your anxiety in other ways, medication can be a temporary solution to help you get through the flight. In such cases, it’s important to work with your healthcare provider to ensure it’s the best option for you.
If you have been taking medication for flight anxiety or bring it with you “just in case” and wish to fly confidently without it. Then you can create a plan with your provider about decreasing the use of the medication.
What About Other Substances?
Some people turn to cannabis or alcohol instead of medication, but these substances have their own downfalls.
Alcohol
Be cautious with alcohol. It can cause drowsiness, dehydration, and hangovers. You especially don’t want to mix alcohol with anti-anxiety medication. Remember that scene in "Bridesmaids"?
Marijuana or CBD
Marijuana comes in various forms—some make you more stimulated, some sleepy, and some paranoid. If you don’t typically use marijuana, you may not know how it will impact you, potentially increasing your anxiety during the flight.
Conclusion
While quick-acting anti-anxiety medications can be useful in certain situations, they are not a long-term solution for overcoming the fear of flying. They may help you get through a flight, but they don’t address the underlying anxiety. It’s important to consider the potential downsides and explore other coping strategies that can help you manage your fear more effectively.
Remember, it’s about finding what works best for you and making an informed decision. Always consult with a healthcare professional before starting any new medication or substance.
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7 Mistakes I Made During My Anxiety Recovery
Hiding anxiety can worsen the condition. Learn how assuming that pushing through, excessive research, seeking reassurance, and avoiding activities can hinder recovery. Discover how radical acceptance and proper steps can help manage anxiety effectively. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation for personalized support.
Have you ever felt like your anxiety is taking control of your life? The constant worry, the sleepless nights, and the overwhelming fear of reaching out for help can be paralyzing. You might find yourself stuck, unable to move forward, and wondering if you’re the only one feeling this way.
You’re not alone.
Years ago, I struggled with anxiety and panic. Now, on the other side of that struggle, I've realized that some of the things I was doing were actually stalling my progress. I want to share my experiences with you so that you don’t prolong your suffering like I did.
In this blog, you’ll discover the seven biggest mistakes I made while dealing with anxiety and how you can avoid them. By learning from my experiences, you can take steps towards a healthier, more fulfilling life.
1. Hiding My Anxiety from Others
The feeling of anxiety began to dominate my life once it became chronic. I didn’t want anyone to know that I had an anxiety disorder because I had created a narrative in my head about who I was and how I wanted to be seen by others. The fear of being rejected by society and possibly ruining my reputation led me to keep the anxiety my dirty little secret, which ultimately made my anxiety even worse.
2. Assuming That Always “Pushing Through” Anxiety Was the Solution
I believed that pushing through my anxiety would eventually get me out of it. I avoided crucial self-care, thinking that taking time to rest was lazy.
But the truth is, we all need moments to “rest and digest.” Our parasympathetic nervous system needs a break so our nerves can rest.
3. Spending Excessive Time Researching Anxiety
I became obsessed with solving my anxiety problem by consuming every book, blog, YouTube video, and podcast I could find.
However, I learned the hard way that while our minds are excellent at solving external problems, they are terrible at solving their own issues.
4. Engaging in Reassurance Seeking
Reassurance seeking is a classic symptom of anxiety. I often asked my wife for reassurance, which provided short-term relief but never helped in the long run.
Questions like, “Did I damage my nervous system beyond repair?” always returned, even after her reassurances.
Excessive reassurance seeking behavior for every worry can strain relationships and mute anxiety..but only temporarily because it was never enough. Anxiety always wanted more.
5. Framing Anxiety as the Enemy to Conquer
When I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), Social Anxiety, and Panic Disorder, I viewed anxiety as an enemy to conquer.
I visualized myself defeating it, which provided temporary relief, but the anxiety always came back stronger.
6. Engaging in Pseudo-Science Practices
In the beginning, I tried to treat my anxiety with “antidotes” found on the internet.
I fell into the trap of pseudo-science practices like “The Law of Attraction,” believing that meditation alone could cure me.
Let me save you some time—those methods don’t work. What did work? Following research backed methods like ACT, CBT, and ERP.
7. Avoiding Activities Until I Was “Cured”
I avoided people and activities I used to enjoy, thinking I needed to be “cured” first. This only made my life smaller, less joyful, and more anxiety-ridden.
Taking the First Step
I know first hand how hard it can be to live with anxiety, but recovery is possible. If you want help untangling from anxiety, schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation to get started.
Written by Justin Matthews, LGSW
Breaking the Cycle of Reassurance Seeking: A New Approach to Handling Flight Anxiety
When you're dealing with a fear of flying, it's natural to seek out information to calm your fears. Reviewing facts about flying safety might seem like a good way to reassure yourself. However, if you find yourself endlessly searching and learning, you might be stuck in a cycle of reassurance seeking. This approach can actually make your anxiety worse in the long run. Let's explore why this happens and what you can do to break the cycle and handle your flight anxiety more effectively.
The Trap of Reassurance Seeking
Reassurance seeking involves constantly looking for information or asking for validation to reduce anxiety. While this can provide temporary relief, it often leads to more anxiety over time. Here’s why:
Temporary Relief: Finding a reassuring fact or receiving validation might make you feel better momentarily, but the relief is short-lived.
Increased Anxiety: The more you seek reassurance, the more your brain becomes dependent on it. This can increase overall anxiety because you're not addressing the root cause of your fear.
Perpetuating the Cycle: Each time you look up safety facts or seek validation, you reinforce the idea that flying is something to be feared. This keeps you trapped in a cycle of anxiety and reassurance seeking.
Initial Learning vs. Endless Searching
It's important to differentiate between helpful initial learning and unproductive endless searching.
Initial Learning: When you first start addressing your fear of flying, it can be helpful to learn about the basics of flying and safety protocols. This initial knowledge can provide a foundation of understanding and reduce some of the unknowns.
Endless Searching: Once you have a basic understanding, continuing to look up facts and seek reassurance becomes counterproductive. Instead of reducing anxiety, it can increase it by keeping your mind focused on the fear.
A New Approach to Handling Flight Anxiety
To effectively manage flight anxiety, it's essential to change your approach. Here are some strategies to help you break the cycle of reassurance seeking and handle your anxiety more effectively:
Acknowledge Your Anxiety: Recognize that feeling anxious about flying is common and that it's okay to have these feelings. Instead of trying to eliminate anxiety, focus on managing it.
Limit Reassurance Seeking: Set boundaries for yourself regarding how often you look up safety facts or ask for validation. Gradually reduce this behavior to break the cycle.
Practice Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness exercises to stay present and grounded. This can help reduce the urge to seek reassurance and shift your focus away from anxiety.
Develop Coping Strategies: Learn and practice coping strategies such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or visualization techniques to manage anxiety during flights.
Seek Professional Help: Consider working with a therapist who specializes in anxiety and phobias. They can provide you with tools and techniques to manage your fear of flying more effectively.
Conclusion
While it might seem helpful to constantly review facts about flying safety, this approach can keep you stuck in a cycle of reassurance seeking and increase your anxiety over time. By recognizing this pattern and adopting new strategies to manage your anxiety, you can break free from the cycle and start handling your fear of flying more effectively. Remember, the goal isn't to eliminate anxiety but to learn how to manage it so you can enjoy your travels with greater confidence and peace of mind.
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Overcoming Your Fear of Seeking Help for Your Anxiety
Feeling Overwhelmed by the Fear of Seeking Help?
You might be thinking…..“I know I need to get help, but my fear, anxiety, and ego won’t let me.”
Does this sound familiar? You’ve done your research and identified a few providers who might be a good fit for your mental health concerns. But now, you find yourself staring at your phone, desperate for the conversation to be over before it even begins.
The fear of calling makes it impossible to commit. You visualize yourself freezing up, unable to get the words out, or losing control and sounding foolish.
Perhaps your ego stops you from admitting you need help, screaming, “Don’t be such a pansy! Man up! There are people starving in Africa, and you’re whining about your anxiety?”
You’re Not Alone
I have good news for you: you’re not crazy; you’re human.
Many of us, especially men, are terrified of making that initial phone call to seek help. Our minds excel at manufacturing automatic thoughts such as, “I can’t believe it’s come to this,” or “I used to be so normal, how could this happen to me?”
These thoughts saturate our brains, leading to resistance. Additionally, despite significant progress, mental health stigma still exists, particularly in the U.S., which can further hinder seeking therapy.
My Personal Journey with Overcoming Anxiety to Call a Therapist
In the beginning stages of my anxiety journey, I remember the day I was ready to make an appointment for therapy after trying to “treat” myself for two years.
I had a therapist in mind, but the fear of freezing up and not being able to articulate my issues kept me from making the call.
This fear fueled my anxiety and avoidance for weeks. Finally, I decided enough was enough.
Here’s how I overcame this obstacle:
Making the Call to A Therapist: Steps to Overcome Anxiety and OCD
1. Accept discomfort
Acknowledge Your Fear: Accept that you’re feeling anxious and that it’s okay. Give your anxiety and fear the space they need without judgment.
Commit to the Call: Decide that, regardless of how the conversation goes, you will be okay. This mindset helps reduce the pressure to be perfect.
2. Prepare Yourself
Write Down Key Points: Outline what you want to say to the therapist. This can include your symptoms, how long you’ve been experiencing them, and what you hope to achieve through therapy.
Practice: If you’re nervous, practice saying these points out loud. This can help you feel more confident and less likely to freeze up.
3. Dial the Number
Start the Call: The most challenging part is starting. Once you dial the number, the hardest part is over.
Begin the Conversation: Your fear will likely be most intense before the call, but once you start talking, it will diminish. You may feel anxious, but it will ebb and flow.
4. Stay Calm During the Call
Breathe and Speak Slowly: Take deep breaths to calm your nerves and speak slowly to articulate your thoughts clearly.
Focus on the Goal: Remember why you’re making the call—to get help. Keep this goal in mind to motivate you through the conversation.
5. Reflect and Celebrate After the Call
Reflect on the Experience: Notice how you feel. Most likely, you’ll find that the fear was more intense before the call and has lessened now that you’ve taken action.
Celebrate Your Courage: Acknowledge that you took a brave step toward improving your mental health. This is a significant achievement.
Take the First Step Today
Making that initial call to seek help for your mental health is daunting, but it’s a crucial step towards recovery. Remember, it’s normal to feel anxious about it. Your fear will likely diminish once you begin the conversation.
So, make the call. Do it for yourself. You are worth it.
Written by Justin Matthews, LGSW
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How to Find the Motivation to Overcome Your Fear of Flying
Overcoming a fear of flying is no small feat. It requires courage, determination, and a clear understanding of why it's important to you. Often, the key to staying motivated throughout this journey lies in recognizing the personal consequences of your fear. By reflecting on how your fear of flying has impacted your life, you can find the motivation to push through and achieve lasting change.
Finding Your Personal "Why"
Understanding why overcoming your fear of flying is important can be a game-changer. When you know the deeper reasons behind your decision, it becomes easier to stay focused and motivated. Here's a simple exercise to help you uncover your personal "why."
Exercise: Reflecting on the Cost of Fear
Take a moment to think about why flying, even though it's scary, matters to you. Consider how getting over this fear connects with the things that truly matter in your life—like your relationships, job, and personal growth. Reflecting on these aspects can provide powerful motivation.
Prompt:
Personal Relationships: How has your fear of flying impacted your relationships with family and friends? Think about shared experiences and moments affected by your fear.
Career Opportunities: Reflect on any instances where your fear might have influenced job opportunities or professional growth. How has it played a role in your career path?
Overall Quality of Life: Explore the broader impact on your day-to-day life. In what ways has your fear affected your overall well-being and happiness?
Missed Opportunities: Identify specific opportunities that you might have missed out on due to your fear. What could have been different if fear wasn't a factor?
Conclusion
Using the consequences of your fear as motivation can be incredibly powerful. By recognizing the impact your fear of flying has had on your life, you can find the drive to make meaningful changes. This isn't just about conquering a fear; it's about reclaiming your life and opening up new possibilities. Remember, every step you take brings you closer to overcoming your fear and living a fuller, more liberated life.
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Breaking the Cycle of Quick Fixes: Understanding Their Limitations for Managing Flight Anxiety
For many, the thought of flying triggers significant anxiety. It's natural to seek quick fixes to alleviate these fears, such as avoiding flights, relying on medication or alcohol, seeking endless reassurance, or performing rituals.
While these methods might provide temporary relief, they often perpetuate the cycle of fear and do not address the root cause of flight anxiety.
In this blog, we'll explore why these quick fixes are not the best long-term solutions and offer a glimpse into more effective strategies for managing your flight anxiety.
The Limitations of Quick Fixes
1. Avoidance
Avoiding flights might seem like an easy solution, but it only reinforces your fear. Each time you avoid flying, you miss the opportunity to confront and manage your anxiety. This avoidance can limit your life experiences and opportunities, ultimately making the fear even more daunting. Over time, avoidance can make your world smaller and your fear even bigger.
2. Medication
While medications like Valium, Xanax, or Klonopin can provide temporary relief, they do not address the underlying anxiety. Over time, you might find yourself relying on these medications more frequently, which can lead to dependency. Additionally, medications can make you drowsy, which is not ideal in an emergency situation. They might help you get through a flight, but they don't help you learn to manage your anxiety in a meaningful way.
3. Alcohol
Using alcohol to calm nerves can have negative consequences, such as dehydration, drowsiness, and impaired judgment. While it may provide short-term relief, it doesn’t equip you with the tools you need to manage your anxiety in the long run. Plus, mixing alcohol with anti-anxiety medication can be dangerous, compounding the risks.
4. Seeking Endless Reassurance
Constantly seeking reassurance about flight safety or your ability to handle flying can provide temporary comfort but ultimately reinforces anxiety. Each time you ask for reassurance, you tell your brain that flying is something to be feared, perpetuating the cycle of anxiety.
5. Performing Rituals
Engaging in rituals or compulsive behaviors to feel safe can also reinforce anxiety. These rituals might offer a temporary sense of control, but they don't address the root cause of your fear. Instead, they keep you trapped in a cycle of dependency on these behaviors.
The Real Cost of Quick Fixes
Quick fixes might seem appealing because they offer immediate relief, but they come with significant downsides:
Temporary Relief: Quick fixes provide a temporary solution, but they don’t address the root cause of anxiety.
Reinforcement of Fear: Each time you rely on a quick fix, you reinforce the idea that flying is something to be feared and avoided.
Lack of Skill Development: Quick fixes don’t help you develop the coping skills needed to manage anxiety effectively.
Potential Health Risks: Relying on medication or alcohol can have adverse health effects and may not be safe in the long run.
Moving Beyond Quick Fixes
Understanding the limitations of quick fixes is the first step towards breaking the cycle of flight anxiety. While they may offer temporary relief, they don’t provide the lasting change you need to overcome your fear of flying.
To truly manage your flight anxiety, it’s essential to develop effective, long-term strategies. This involves learning to accept your anxious feelings, preparing thoughtfully for flights, and practicing mindfulness and other coping techniques.
For more detailed strategies and support, I’ve created a comprehensive Flight Anxiety Toolkit. This toolkit is designed to provide you with practical, effective tools to help you manage your flight anxiety and make flying a more comfortable experience.
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A Powerful Tool to Manage Anxious Thoughts
Anxiety can be overwhelming, with upsetting thoughts popping up and disrupting your peace of mind. These thoughts can make you feel like you're losing control, and no matter how hard you try to push them away, they just keep coming back, causing more distress.
Imagine if you could distance yourself from these anxious thoughts and reduce their impact. What if you had a tool that could help you manage these thoughts, making them feel less threatening and more manageable?
One of my favorite tools to use with clients is a technique called "I'm noticing the thought." This exercise helps you create a distance between yourself and your anxious thoughts, allowing you to observe them without being overwhelmed.
By recognizing these thoughts for what they are—just thoughts—you can reduce their power and regain a sense of control.
How It Will Help You
This exercise is designed to help you defuse from your thoughts, which means you'll learn to see them as separate from yourself. This can significantly reduce the distress they cause and help you approach them with a calmer, more balanced perspective.
The Exercise: "I'm Noticing the Thought"
Here’s how you can practice this powerful tool:
Identify an Upsetting Thought Start by writing down a thought that upsets you. For example, "I'm going to screw this up."
Repeat the Thought Say that thought 10 times, either out loud or in writing. This repetition helps you become more aware of the thought without trying to change it.
Modify the Thought Now, say or write the same thought, but this time add “I’m having the thought” in front of it. For example, "I'm having the thought that I'm going to screw this up." Repeat this modified thought 10 times.
Notice the Thought Finally, add “I notice I’m having the thought” in front of the original thought. For example, "I notice I'm having the thought that I'm going to screw this up." Say or write this new version 10 times.
Reflect on the Experience
As you go through this exercise, pay attention to what you notice. How does it feel to add these phrases? Do you feel any change in how the thought impacts you? This exercise can help you see the thought as a mere mental event rather than a fact or a command you must follow.
Will You Use This Tool in the Future?
I encourage you to try this exercise and see how it works for you. It's a simple yet powerful way to manage your anxious thoughts and create a sense of distance from them. Would this be a tool you'll use in the future?
Feel free to share your experience with this exercise in the comments below. I’d love to hear how it went for you and any insights you gained.
Conclusion
Learning to manage anxious thoughts is a crucial part of overcoming anxiety. By practicing "I'm noticing the thought," you can develop a healthier relationship with your thoughts and reduce their power over your emotions. Remember, these thoughts are just that—thoughts. They don't define you or dictate your actions.
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Turbulence Toolkit: Your Path to Confident Flying
Download the Free Audio Exercise for Taming Turbulence
Have you ever felt your heart race as the plane hits turbulence? You're not alone. Many people experience significant anxiety during flights, especially when turbulence strikes. Having dealt with flying anxiety myself, I understand how challenging it can be. Over time, I've found effective strategies to transform my flying experience from stressful to confident. In this blog post, I'll share practical tips and a free guided audio exercise to help you navigate turbulence with ease.
Understanding Turbulence
Turbulence can be a major source of anxiety, but understanding what it is and how planes handle it can ease your mind. Think of turbulence as a bumpy road—it’s uncomfortable but not dangerous. I recently saw a TikTok video comparing planes to jello, which helped me visualize how planes safely navigate through turbulence.
Accepting turbulence as a routine part of flying can also reduce anticipatory anxiety. Instead of dreading it, recognizing turbulence as a normal occurrence can help you stay calm.
Effective Strategies for Managing Turbulence
Understanding turbulence is a start, but having practical strategies can make a big difference during those bumpy moments. Here are some techniques that have helped me manage my flying anxiety:
Trust the Pilots: Skip turbulence prediction apps and rely on the expertise of pilots who are trained to handle turbulent conditions.
Lift Your Feet: Try lifting your feet off the floor during turbulence to minimize the sensations. It’s a simple trick that can help reduce discomfort.
Don’t Avoid Flights: Instead of letting fear dictate your flight choices, work on building confidence and resilience. Avoiding flights only reinforces anxiety.
Pilot Perspective: Understand that pilots sometimes prefer flying through turbulence for efficiency. They navigate turbulence for passenger comfort, so trust their judgment.
Keep Flying: The more you fly, the more familiar and comfortable you’ll become. Facing your fears directly can reduce the impact of turbulence on your overall experience.
Free Audio Exercise for Turbulence
Along with these tips, I'm excited to offer you a free audio exercise designed to help manage turbulence anxiety. This guided track can be your companion on your next flight, helping you stay calm and composed during rough patches. Download the Turbulence Tamer audio exercise here.
Turbulence doesn’t have to be a source of intense anxiety. By understanding its nature and using effective strategies, you can transform your flying experience. Remember, confidence comes with practice and exposure. Keep flying, face your fears, and soon turbulence will just be another part of your journey.
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Understanding the True Reasons Behind Fear of Flying
When people think of a fear of flying, their minds often jump to the fear of a plane crash. While this is a significant concern for many, the fear of flying is a complex issue with multiple layers. Understanding these various reasons can help you better manage your anxiety and find effective ways to cope. Let’s explore some of the common reasons why people fear flying and how recognizing these can be the first step toward overcoming this fear.
1. Fear of Losing Control
One of the primary reasons people fear flying is the sense of losing control. When you're on a plane, you're placing your trust entirely in the hands of the pilots and crew. For those who feel comforted by being in control of their environment, this can be incredibly anxiety-inducing. Additionally, some people fear they will lose control of themselves—they worry that they will have so much anxiety that they will "go mad," make a fool of themselves, or even get detained or blacklisted.
2. Claustrophobia
The confined space of an airplane can trigger claustrophobia in many individuals. The idea of being in a small, enclosed space for an extended period can lead to panic and a strong desire to escape. This is not just limited to flying; it can extend to other enclosed spaces like tubes, lifts, or any confined area.
3. Fear of Turbulence
Turbulence is a common trigger for flight anxiety. The sudden, unpredictable movements of the plane can make passengers feel unsafe, even though turbulence is usually harmless. Many people experience their heart racing and a surge of panic when turbulence occurs, especially if the seatbelt signs come on and the pilot asks everyone to remain seated.
4. Fear of Heights (Acrophobia)
For some, the fear of flying is directly related to a fear of heights. The thought of being thousands of feet above the ground can cause intense anxiety and discomfort. This fear can be exacerbated during takeoff and landing, as well as when looking out of the window during the flight.
5. Past Traumatic Experiences
A past traumatic experience related to flying, such as a particularly rough flight or an emergency landing, can leave a lasting impression and trigger fear in future flights. For some, this fear developed after previously enjoying flying, leading to physical symptoms and muscle tension during flights.
6. Fear of Panic Attacks
Many people with a fear of flying are more concerned about having a panic attack during the flight than the flight itself. The thought of being trapped and unable to escape can exacerbate this fear. This is particularly challenging because the fear is not about the plane's safety but about managing intense anxiety in an enclosed space.
7. Fear of the Unknown
The unfamiliarity of the flying process can be daunting. From security checks to the noises a plane makes, the unknown aspects of flying can trigger anxiety. This includes worries about what to expect during turbulence, how the plane operates, and the general experience of being in the air.
8. Fear of Motion Sickness
Some people fear flying because they are prone to motion sickness. The idea of feeling nauseous and uncomfortable for the duration of the flight can be a significant deterrent. This fear can make the prospect of flying very unappealing and anxiety-inducing.
Conclusion
The fear of flying is multifaceted and can stem from a variety of concerns beyond just the fear of a plane crash. Understanding the root cause of your fear can be the first step in addressing it effectively. Whether it’s a fear of losing control, claustrophobia, or a past traumatic experience, recognizing these triggers allows you to take proactive steps toward managing your anxiety and enjoying a more relaxed flying experience.
If you’re struggling with a fear of flying, remember that you’re not alone, and there are resources and techniques available to help you overcome it. By acknowledging and addressing your specific fears, you can start to reclaim the joy of travel and the opportunities it brings.
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Why Common Strategies for Dealing with Anxiety Don't Work
Most people with anxiety are highly motivated to get better because the physical feelings and negative thoughts that come with anxiety are incredibly uncomfortable. It's no surprise that people will try all kinds of things to get rid of anxious thoughts and feelings.
But what you may not know is that recovering from anxiety actually requires a paradoxical approach. This means your first instinct about how to get better is likely going to backfire. When it comes to anxiety, you need to do the opposite of what feels natural.
Here is a list of common strategies people use to get rid of anxiety that don’t work in the long run:
Deep breathing
Using logic to challenge or fix thoughts
Avoiding people/places/things that trigger anxiety
Distracting yourself
Spending excessive amounts of time researching an answer
Always seeking reassurance from others
Why Do These Strategies Backfire?
Because all of these strategies are telling your brain that this worry or fear is something dangerous that you need to do something about. Instead of treating it as something low risk that you could probably handle without using the strategy, these methods reinforce the idea that the anxiety is a real threat.
These strategies also take a ton of energy and time. So while you are busy trying to "chase away anxiety," you are missing out on your life around you.
I love this short video that helps explain this a bit more.
So you need to remember, what you resist will persist!
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Discover Our Favorite Books for Managing Anxiety and OCD 📚
Learning all you can about anxiety or OCD can make a significant difference in your recovery. By reading self-help books, you can increase your understanding of how OCD works, feel less alone, and learn helpful strategies to deal with OCD.
We've curated a list of some of our favorite books that have been incredibly helpful for many on their journey with anxiety or OCD.
These recommendations range from treatment strategies to memoirs that include various approaches and offer practical strategies to help you manage anxiety or OCD more effectively.
These are not affiliate links, just ones we think are great.
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The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris
Worrying is Optional
Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks by Barry McDonagh
The Complete Guide to Overcoming Health Anxiety: How to Live Life to the Fullest...Because You're Not Dead (Yet) by Dr. Josh Spitalnick and Michael Stier
The Emetophobia Manual: Free Yourself from the Fear of Vomit and Reclaim Your Life by Ken Goodman
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Freedom from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder by Jonathan Grayson, PhD
The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD by Jon Hershfield, MFT
Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts by Sally Winston, PsyD
ACT Workbook for OCD by Marisa Mazza, PsyD
The Imp of the Mind: Exploring the Silent Epidemic of Obsessive Bad Thoughts by Lee Baer
Pure OCD: The Invisible Side of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder by Chrissie Hodges
Relationship OCD: A CBT-Based Guide to Move Beyond Obssesive Doubt, Anxiety, and Fear of Commitment in Romantic Relationships by Sheva Rajaee, MFT
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What to Do When You Worry Too Much by Dawn Huebner, PhD
Be sure to check out her other books!
Wilma Jean the Worry Machine by Julia Cook
Outsmarting Worry (An Older Kid's Guide to Managing Anxiety) by Dawn Huebner
What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming OCD by Dawn Huebner
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When a Family Member Has OCD: Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioral Skills to Help Families Affected by OCD by Jon Hershfield
The Family Guide to Getting Over OCD by Jonathan Abramowitz
Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD by Eli Lebowitz
When A Loved One Won't Seek Mental Health Treatment by Alec Pollard, PhD
Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children by Reid Wilson and Lynn Lyons
Whether you're dealing with OCD yourself, supporting a loved one, or helping children and teens navigate their anxiety, these books offer practical tools to help you or your loved ones manage OCD and anxiety more effectively.
Remember, the journey through OCD and anxiety can be challenging, but with the right resources and support, it gets easier. Don't give up!
Written by Jenny Matthews, LMFT, LADC
Jenny is a therapist that specializes in helping over-thinkers and worriers get relief from anxiety so they can be more productive + do what matters + be present with their loved ones.
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5 Things Not to Do When Traveling with an Anxious Flyer
Traveling with someone who is anxious about flying can be tough. While most people mean well when trying to ease another person's anxiety, sometimes those good intentions can backfire. To help your travel companion feel more at ease, steer clear of these five common mistakes.
1. Don’t Suggest Alcohol or Drugs
Although it might seem like a drink could help someone relax, it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution and can actually create more issues.
Alcohol can lead to dehydration, which can heighten anxiety, and getting intoxicated could result in embarrassing situations or make it difficult to respond in an emergency. Plus, mixing alcohol with certain medications can be dangerous. Instead, encourage healthier coping methods.
2. Avoid Saying “Calm Down”
Telling someone to calm down when they’re anxious is rarely helpful.
If it were that easy, they’d do it themselves. Instead, offer specific actions like giving a comforting back rub, suggesting deep breathing exercises, or reassuring them with “I’m here with you, and you’re safe.”
3. Don’t Try to “Fix” Their Fear
Anxious flyers often know that flying is statistically safe, but their brain reacts differently in the moment. Validate their feelings and acknowledge how challenging this is for them.
Trying to talk them out of their fear usually leads to frustration and shutting down.
4. Don’t Rush or Be Late
Adding time pressure to someone already anxious about flying only makes things worse. Give yourselves plenty of time to get to the airport and through security.
Reducing the rush can help keep their stress levels down.
5. Be Mindful of Your Own Behavior
Anxiety can make people more sensitive to annoying habits, like chewing loudly or talking too much. Don’t take their irritability personally—understanding can go a long way.
You may benefit from your own stress reduction skills as flying with someone who is afraid can also be hard on you.
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Navigating Flight Anxiety: Where I Am on My Journey Today
This month I’m taking my family trip to Arizona and I can't help but reflect on my journey with flight anxiety, especially considering I recently flew in February. Each flight brings me a step closer to confident flying, reinforcing the notion that practice truly does make progress.
Since my last flight just a couple of months ago, I've noticed a significant boost in my confidence. The more I fly, the more confident I become.
In fact, I have had no anticipatory anxiety whatsoever. But I’m not going to think that it won’t show up at some point. Because it certainly could. And if so, I’m ready for it. My resilience is stronger than my fear right now.
I wouldn’t be where I’m at in my journey with flight anxiety if I hadn’t understood what subtle things I was doing that were actually worsening it. And if you want to learn more about this, I have a free masterclass coming up this month, where I can teach you too (stay tuned for the details).
So what am I doing to prepare for my flight? Honestly nothing. The last time I flew, I wanted to make sure I sought out some challenges (like going on a ferris wheel) to confront uncomfortable sensations.
I don’t feel like I will need to do that now since I flew just this past February. While I'm feeling more confident this time around, I know I'll still find opportunities for practice – perhaps on the swing set or on the trampoline with my kids where that familiar drop in the tummy sensation awaits.
So I'm not actively seeking discomfort. Instead, I'm focusing on planning future trips. In fact, I have two more coming up after this Arizona trip. My goal is to keep flying.
I have the skills I need, I just need to continue practicing them in the air. Which is so different from years ago when the mere thought of flying would cause me to shake and think about how I could get out of this trip.
If you are thinking that you will always be an anxious flyer, then keep following my journey. I will keep sharing my journey with you in hopes of inspiring you that it’s possible to have confidence to handle your anxiety.
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How to Turn Flight Anxiety Setbacks into Progress
If you recently experienced a setback with your flight anxiety, whether it led to canceling your trip or enduring an anxious journey, you might be feeling disheartened and self-critical. It's crucial to recognize that setbacks are a normal part of the journey when dealing with anxiety. Despite the disappointment, there are valuable lessons to be learned from these experiences.
Give Yourself Credit
Firstly, acknowledge any progress you've made, no matter how small it may seem. Perhaps you took steps toward facing your fear by booking a flight in the first place or maybe this time you didn’t self-medicate during the flight.
Every effort counts, and it's essential to give yourself credit for any small changes. Change isn’t all or nothing and is a process.
Stop Beating Yourself Up
Instead of dwelling on the setback, focus on what you can learn from it. Avoid the temptation to criticize yourself harshly; self-compassion is key to moving forward constructively.
Are you calling yourself a pathetic loser? I want you to ask yourself if you would talk that way to a friend who made a mistake. I’m guessing not. You need to treat yourself how you would treat a friend.
And rather than shaming yourself, channel your energy into understanding why the setback occurred and how you can use it as motivation to overcome future challenges. I have a free Learning from Setbacks Worksheet you can download to help you learn from the setback.
Why Is Flying Important To You?
Consider why flying is important to you. Reflect on the reasons behind your desire to confront your fear, and let these motivations guide your next steps. Remember, just because you didn't succeed this time doesn't mean you won't succeed in the future.
If you feel defeated right now, it can feel really hard to decide to get back on the horse and keep riding. But instead of focusing on how your feelings of defeat, think about why this is important to you and how overcoming this fear can open up your world.
I recently wrote a blog about how to understand your motivation so that it can serve as fuel during challenging moments. You can check that out here.
What Did You Do To Prepare For This Flight?
Reflect on the preparations you made for the flight. It’s not uncommon for people to wait until the month before their flight to start practicing effective skills. But depending on where you are in your journey, that may not have been enough time.
I wrote a blog recently about some ways I prepared for an upcoming flight. You can read that here.
Perhaps this time you need some additional support. There's no shame in reaching out for help, whether through therapy, medication, or a fear of flying course.
Recognize that you don't have to figure this out on your own, and investing in support can significantly improve your chances of success.
Have Reasonable Expectations
It's also essential to have reasonable expectations for yourself. Anxiety during a flight doesn't mean you failed; it's how you respond to that anxiety that matters most.
Instead of focusing solely on the absence of anxiety, concentrate on developing coping strategies and resilience.
Remember, progress is not always linear, and setbacks are opportunities for growth. It can help to expect that there will be setbacks, because that will keep you from giving up all together.
As long as you keep learning and keep flying, you will get there.
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What's Your Why?
Have you ever felt paralyzed by fear, unable to take that first step forward?
Maybe it's the thought of boarding a plane or facing a crowded room. Whatever it is, I get it. But here's the thing: it's time to kick fear to the curb and live a bigger, bolder life.
What if you could start booking flights without starting to overthink about all the things that could go wrong?
Or go to a party without planning your exit?
If you notice a nagging thought that says “that’ll never happen for me” or “it’s not worth it” then it’s time to start working on your motivation.
Lets face it. Change isn’t easy. And you can probably get by for awhile without doing anything about it. But eventually life smacks you in the face and you can’t keep ignoring it.
Maybe that’s the day you get a call where you HAVE to fly because your job depends on it, or your bff is getting married. Or you need to attend a funeral of a loved one.
And then you are faced with letting this fear take over and cause you to miss out. Or you panic the entire way there.
Don’t wait until you HAVE to change.
If you wait to until you have to fly, or go to a wedding, or whatever, to start working on your fear then you will not have enough time to learn the skills you need to.
Start now. Give yourself one year to really invest in yourself so that you can spend the rest of your life unleashed from the fear monster.
Take a moment to picture your future. What does it look like when fear no longer holds you back? Can you see yourself boarding that plane, heart pounding but head held high? It's a powerful image, isn't it?
And what will your life look like one year from now if you continue to let fear and anxiety control your actions and decisions?
What if you chose to spend the next year investing in learning how to overcome your fear? Where could that take you? How would that impact your loved ones?
If you need help facing your fear, get professional support. You’re not the only one going through this and anxiety is treatable.
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Turbulence Toolkit: Your Key to Confident Flying Starts Here
If you've ever felt a surge of anxiety when the plane hits turbulence, you're not alone. Like many others, I've experienced the challenges of flying anxiety firsthand. However, over time, I've discovered strategies that have transformed my flying experience from nerve-wracking to confident. In this blog post, I'll share a combination of practical tips and a free guided audio track to help you navigate through turbulence with confidence.
Understanding Turbulence:
Turbulence can trigger feelings of anxiety and discomfort, but understanding its nature can help alleviate some of those fears. One helpful tip is to learn about how aircraft handle turbulence. I recently came across a TikTok video that compared planes to jello, offering a unique visual perspective that helped me understand turbulence better.
Expecting turbulence as a normal part of flying can also make a significant difference in how we perceive it. Rather than hoping for a smooth flight, acknowledging turbulence as a routine occurrence can help reduce anticipatory anxiety.
Practical Tips for Managing Turbulence:
While understanding turbulence is helpful, practical strategies can provide additional support during turbulent moments. Here are some tips that have personally helped me manage flying anxiety:
Skip the turbulence prediction apps and trust in the expertise of pilots to navigate through turbulent conditions safely.
Try lifting your feet off the floor during turbulence to reduce the sensations you feel. It may sound simple, but some swear by this technique.
Don't let fear dictate your choices when it comes to flying. Instead of avoiding certain seats or flight times, focus on building your confidence and resilience in handling anxiety during flights.
Consider the perspective of pilots, who often prefer flying through turbulence for efficiency. They only try to avoid turbulence for the comfort of the passengers. Trusting in their experience can help ease your mind during turbulent moments.
Keep flying and face your fears head-on. The more familiar and comfortable you become with flying, the less impact turbulence will have on your overall experience.
Free Audio Exercise for Handling Turbulence
In addition to these practical tips, I'm excited to share a valuable resource with you: a free audio exercise designed to help you manage turbulence anxiety during flights. Take it with you on your next flight to help you stay calm during any rough air you experience.